TJ Bartel’s Blog
Personal Responsibility in Communication with Your Partner
Several years back I was working with a couple who were struggling with their communication. I taught them about the importance of taking responsibility for the words they chose when communicating. This becomes very difficult when triggered. I taught them how...
Mindset Awareness and its Importance in Relationships
In recent years, much media attention has been given to Stanford psychologist Carol S. Dweck's idea of "fixed" vs. "growth" mindsets. Describing the ways in which people tend to cope with various challenges, Dweck's theories have radically changed our notion of how...
Signs You’re in a Truly Passionate Relationship – Part 2
Welcome back to part 2 of this blog series! Part 1 focused on relationship aspects like accepting each other’s flaws, planning futures together, and making sacrifices. Let’s delve into a few more signs that show you and your partner are in a truly passionate...
Signs You’re in a Truly Passionate Relationship – Part 1
Everyone wants a passionate relationship, right? But knowing how to get it, and more importantly keep it, is often a mystery. Passion can be defined differently depending on one’s idea of the concept, but it doesn’t just mean a highly sexual relationship. It’s common...
Overcoming Your Relationship Insecurities
No matter how confident an individual may be, the concept of self-confidence can fly right out the window when it comes to relationships. Even when your partner has chosen to be with you and expresses their love for you, it may be impossible to shake that feeling of...
The Importance of ‘Date Night’ for Married Couples
When was the last time you and your spouse had a night out (or in) just the two of you? In today’s world of being constantly on the move, it’s easy to get lost in one’s career and family life. After work, running kids from one place to another, making dinner, getting...
How to Master the Art of Kissing
To be a great lover, you first have to be a great kisser. Kissing is the first introduction your partner has to you and your biochemical imprint. If the first kiss isn’t powerful, she likely won’t want to progress your physical relationship any farther. When you kiss...
Bridging the Gap Between Men and Women: What it Means and How to Do It PART 1: Communication
It’s no secret that men and women have very different styles of communication. The differences in these styles can seem small, but if not handled carefully, communication breakdowns and misunderstandings can be the result, leading to a whole host of other issues....