TJ Bartel’s Blog
The Value of Unconditional Love
The concept of love can be interpreted differently by people all around the world. A typical phrase repeated throughout many cultures is “falling in love.” However, using the word “fall” implies that this was accidental, and therefore something you were not looking...
“Emotional Flooding” and How to Avoid It
If you've ever struggled with the feeling of being overcome with negative emotions especially when triggered by a miscommunication or disagreement with a loved one or significant other, you may be experiencing what is referred to as “emotional flooding.” Although...
Is Your Relationship Growing or Dying?
Based on Relationship Coach Tj Bartel’s YouTube video. Life is all about effectively managing how much time you spend enjoying things, smiling, spreading love, and being happy. In order to manage all of this, however, everyone must have some form of measure. For...
Pushing the Reset Button – How to Take a Healthy Break in Your Relationship
I recently visited India for the first time. It was an amazing adventure. The first week I was in Delhi supporting one of my favorite non-profit organizations ASHA. We visited several slums where I was able to see the transformation in the health and happiness of many...
Bedtime Routines for a Healthier Relationship
Bedtime routines are just as essential for adults as they are for children. Couples who wish to strengthen and maintain their bonds must take the appropriate steps to reignite passion and form an understanding of their partner’s needs in order to have a healthy...
A Guide to Dating After Divorce
Dating after divorce can be a challenging process for a variety of reasons. The following suggestions can make transitioning back into the dating scene a little easier. #1 - Don’t Impose a Timeline on Yourself After divorce it’s possible to continue feeling fondness...
Setting Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationship
Relationships offer us many opportunities for personal growth. They provide a chance to release or realign what we learned in childhood that no longer serves us. Growing up with 8 siblings, having my own personal space was rare luxury for me. But private physical...
Building Confidence With Women
Men often ask me how to approach or flirt successfully with women in public settings like weddings, parties, bars, or clubs. Successfully connecting with women, today more than ever, must be done in a safe yet masculine manner. I recommend a very different approach...
How Habits Can Harm a Relationship
A habit is defined as, “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.” You can think of them as the things we do on auto-pilot. Sometimes they make us feel good - like the habit of drinking water first thing in the morning or the...
Filtering Your Communication in a Relationship
In my previous blog, I detailed the ‘CLEAR’ method and how you can be personally responsible when communicating with your partner. Seeing as communication is one of, if not the most important aspect of a healthy relationship, making the most of this should be...